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Thirteen

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Rage
« on: October 09, 2011, 04:25:50 PM »
I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on how to control rage (or severe  anger)?

I'm going through a lot, and I tend to fall into rages when provoked, I'm extremely irritable, snappy, and tense. I feel that I phsycologically shift into an inner beast while mad (and I mean MAD) I feel my bane prick and I snarl, and I feel an inner strength that I just don't posess when unprovoked. I also tend to have homicidal and dangerous thoughts, very gory and wrong; I can easily contain these urges, but it's just the things that I see in my head that disturb me.

I need a way to relax and calm down.

I'm beginning meditation, but it's hard to meditate when you don't have a peaceful place or it's dark outside. (look at that, its the full moon - how ironic)

Can anyone offer up some quick fixes?

P.S. I'm in several therapies for coping techniques, I know them all by heart, but I need something a little more powerful. A spell perhaps?
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Re: Rage
« Reply #1 on: October 09, 2011, 04:30:57 PM »
If nothing works, go see a physician and make take some pills. They can fix that ;) I normally dont recommend such things, but rage can be quite dangerous, not only for yourself but others around you. And, I wouldnt recommend spells for someone that is already having control issues.

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Re: Rage
« Reply #2 on: October 09, 2011, 04:34:34 PM »
I'm on medication to tell you the truth. :/ I've been on meds my entire life. I've tried several.

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Re: Rage
« Reply #3 on: October 09, 2011, 04:37:08 PM »
Yeah, I use to have these kinds of problems. Personally, I just learned to bottle it up and release it in less violent ways, like video games sometimes. I mean, there's more that goes through my head, but it's hard to explain.
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Re: Rage
« Reply #4 on: October 09, 2011, 04:41:13 PM »
I worry about ever offering someone tips or advice on objects and spells, because I'm afraid they'll become reliant on the stuff.

Everyone handles their emotions differently, and so unfortunately we can't give you anything to FIX it. We can offer suggestions, links, personal experiences and whatnot though.
For me, well before the pregnancy I put my anger into my comp. fighting. I was in a brawling league... and if hitting the heavy bag didn't help, I'd take a run. A good, long, run. Maybe through the woods. Breathing, breathing helps as well.

Find something that requires your full attention, maybe even something that requires some deep concentration. This can vary for people; puzzles work wonders, I hear... Maybe cooking, cleaning, if you're into that.
Removing yourself ( and of course, if you've been to therapy for this, then this is all old news ) from the situation is always the best thing to do, however if you find that you can't for one reason or the other, then finding a "happy place" in your head is a wonderful next step.
Not so much ignoring the situation, as separating yourself consciously from it. You're still aware of your surroundings, and everything that's going on, but you no longer register it like your normally would. It's an almost on the spot form of meditation.

I'm beginning meditation, but it's hard to meditate when you don't have a peaceful place or it's dark outside. (look at that, its the full moon - how ironic)

Wonderful, that you are!
Can you go to the bathroom? Take some music in there, and take a good shower ( or soaking bath ). I wouldn't suggest meditating in the shower, but can you "become one" with the music?
What about going outside, can you take walks?

There is also finding someone to talk to. I believe my yahoo information is on my profile, and if it's not: destinationinsanity
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Re: Rage
« Reply #5 on: October 09, 2011, 04:46:44 PM »
@TeteoInan Thank you so much for all of this. I'll try your suggestions. And thank you for your offering to talk to me; if I'm ever in desperate need, I'll know who to contact. Thanks. :)
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Re: Rage
« Reply #6 on: October 09, 2011, 04:50:17 PM »
You're welcome. I may have other suggestions, but I wanted to get something to you fast.
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Re: Rage
« Reply #7 on: October 09, 2011, 05:46:24 PM »
I just can't seem to shake it. I even did the whole writing a letter about how you felt. But now I just want to send it to the people that've hurt me. But that'd jsut cause consequence. I wish there was just a solution.. if only life worked that way.
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Re: Rage
« Reply #8 on: October 09, 2011, 05:49:21 PM »
We wouldn't have much entertainment though, would we?
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Re: Rage
« Reply #9 on: October 09, 2011, 08:46:04 PM »
Make copies of the letter & burn them. It'll be a simple but quite effective ritual to help let go of everything in the letter.

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Re: Rage
« Reply #10 on: October 10, 2011, 04:58:18 AM »
try meditating, for real, it works, find your inner "beast" and control it, I used to be in your shoes long ago, before I came here, meditating and will made my rage disappear. Other than this, everything T, Nina and Countess told you are correct as well
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Re: Rage
« Reply #11 on: October 10, 2011, 06:55:41 AM »
Ive always had bouts with anger. Still do. One thing I would warn against is trying to drink them away. That is a lethal combination. Something I used to do is lift weights, it dosnt really stop the rage, but it kinda slowes it. Its more a way to avoid acting on the urges, kinda like taking your dog for a long walk so it wont chew on the furniture.

Martial arts of any kind is a good outlet.

One thing that helped me with meditation in the begining, and at the time my  goal was to take a clear look inside myself was a dark blindfold and earplugs. Close your sences so they can only go inside. I will warn you though, you may not like some of the things you find.

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Re: Rage
« Reply #12 on: October 10, 2011, 08:17:43 AM »
I'm with Ravin - martial arts is a great place to channel your energy. There's also this; your medicine could be affecting your moods. Have you been with the same doctor(s) for years? Might be time to see a new one or new ones.
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Re: Rage
« Reply #13 on: October 10, 2011, 02:01:59 PM »
Thank you everyone for your suggestions. I've been thinking of purchasing a punching bag, to let off steam once in a while, or starting a mma class.

Have you been with the same doctor(s) for years? Might be time to see a new one or new ones.

My meds are mood stabilizers. They're good meds, without them I'd be waaayyy worse off. I can't really get off of them now, because being off them would be really bad. But I think finding a new coping method will work.
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Re: Rage
« Reply #14 on: October 13, 2011, 12:43:06 PM »
read, read, study and read some more...

there's an amazing wealth of information on addressing emotional issues, how to deal with them and philosophy and psychology to help your understanding of being human, the younger you are the less control you have over normal emotions, you're human, get used to it.

the glorious thing about this method is you can find books from spiritual transcendings to  traditionally established understandings of the psyche. The more you understand what drives your emotions the easier time you'll have in controlling them, finding constructive outlets for the negative ones and learn a variety of ways and techniques to nurture the positive emotions...

http://marilee.us/desiderata.html

and this always helps me put things in perspective.  :)
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