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Dead... And Not So Dead => The Dead and the Undead => Topic started by: Sick_Angel13 on July 23, 2008, 02:38:36 PM

Title: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Sick_Angel13 on July 23, 2008, 02:38:36 PM

Medium Concetta Bertoldi answers common questions about the dead

Concetta Bertoldi, known for being a medium who communicates with the dead, answers some of the most common questions about what happens on the "other side"  in her book, "Do Dead People Watch You Shower?" An excerpt.

- Introduction
I know you’ve got a lot of questions — after all, that’s the reason you picked up this book, right? But before I get to those, I thought it might be good for you to know who it is who you’re talking with, so I’d like to tell you a little bit about myself.

First of all, let’s get a few things out in the open. I consider myself to be a spiritual person. But that does not mean that I am a perfect person. I have plenty of faults. I can swear like a sailor, I enjoy a good dirty joke, and if the truth be told, I don’t get along with my mother-in-law. From the moment I first got together with her son, in fact, she’s been a real rock in my underwear. A real pickle-puss. But don’t get me started. Aside from the usual number of human flaws, I think I’m pretty easy to get along with. Just your average Jersey girl who talks to the dead.

I’m a pretty upfront person, but I haven’t always been open about that last bit. I’ve accepted it now, sort of grown into it, but especially when I was younger that’s the last thing I’d want anyone to know about me. I haven’t been public all that long — only for the past ten years, and that took a lot of prodding (I’ll say more about that later) — but now that I realize how important it is, I’ve become a lot more willing to talk about this ability and the incredible things I’ve learned from it.

As soon as I made the decision to go public with my unusual talent, the questions came in full force. There have been serious questions, silly questions, sad questions, snarky questions. I answered them truthfully, patiently ... and repeatedly. This book is an attempt to answer all of the questions I have been asked over the years, and finally put an end to that one question I am asked most: When are you going to write a book?

In the past I would respond as any severely dyslexic girl who didn’t know how to type would — I changed the subject. But after a while I realized it might be easier to just write the damn book than to keep fielding the damn question. So you can stop asking me now, all right?

Within these pages I am going to be as upfront and open as possible. I will try to keep the cursing, and mentions of my mother-in-law problem to a minimum. But you should know that it may come up from time to time. Sometimes even a rock in the underwear can be a good teacher — even if the lesson is that you can’t please everyone! I hope I can bring some understanding to the subject of what happens to us all when we pass over from the land of the living to the Other Side. I hope some of what you’ll find in these pages may be comforting to you. And if I can make someone smile, so much the better!

What is the difference between a medium and a psychic?
A medium is a psychic, but a psychic is not necessarily a medium. Someone who is just psychic can give you a prediction, but they can’t tell you where or who they got it from. I (and other true mediums) not only can tell you what is going on and what will happen, but we can tell you who on the Other Side is bringing the message. I’m the whole package, baby!

When did you first start talking with dead people?
I couldn’t say exactly, but certainly from the time I was a small girl. It wasn’t really having a conversation, I just knew something. I understood so little at that time, I had no one to explain to me what this ‘knowing’ was. One of my very earliest memories of this was walking home one day when I was about nine years old (this wasn’t the first, but one that I strongly recall) and ‘realizing’ that my older brother was going to be taken from us at an early age. As I was walking into my backyard, I ‘heard’ the Other Side (I didn’t know at the time that’s who was communicating with me) tell me this. I can’t recall the exact words I heard. I’m not even sure it was a full sentence. Nevertheless, I knew what they meant, and I remember it like it was yesterday.

Other messages like this one came to me at other times. I was told, for example, that I would never in this lifetime have children of my own. I was also told that in a past lifetime my soul had been married to my father’s soul — one of the reasons, I’m sure, why I completely adored my father in this lifetime. The effect of these messages, for me, was one of grounding me. Even if I didn’t like what I’d been told, even if, like anyone would, I fought against losing my brother and against whatever it was that decided I would not have children, the fact that I’d been told these things in advance eventually helped me gain perspective.

What happens to us when we die?
People have fears. They’ve heard about going into the Light and want to know, does it hurt walking into the Light? Do we lose our memories? Is everything there that we had before?

What I’ve heard from the souls on the Other Side is that when we die we leave either through our feet or the top of the head. On this side I’ve heard of the “silver cord” that supposedly attaches us to life here, but no one from over there has ever mentioned this to me. It’s hard to describe exactly how we are moving — it’s a bit like floating, a bit like walking, a bit like flying, it’s a ‘gravitating’ toward the Light. There’s a feeling of anticipation — maybe a little fear, but more anticipation.

Nothing at all is forgotten. In fact, whereas now we can only remember some highlights of our past, over there we remember every single moment and detail. Everything we knew, loved, or experienced.

When we die, within seconds of entering the Light we experience a knowing. We get a fast-forward review of our lives and see the whole domino effect of all of our actions. We feel everything we made someone else feel — the joy, the hurt. We see and understand the whole domino effect of all our actions and of every interaction we had with anyone. And we know and understand what our purpose was in this lifetime.

There’s a period of transition, a time we get to reflect on our life — I don’t feel that this is standardized in any way; it’s different from individual to individual. For many there may be a necessary period of healing any physical or emotional issues, especially forgiving ourselves for anything we did while living that we don’t feel proud of, that may have hurt someone, before we are able to interact with this side, the living, again. At all times we are given help in healing what we “shoulda woulda coulda” done in our lives here.” Sometimes there is sadness at what we wish we could have done differently. We’re encouraged to heal any anger or guilt. But there is also what we would think of as physical healing — even though it’s not really physical, it’s spiritual. I can’t tell you how often someone who has been sick when they died, maybe even have been missing parts of their body, have told me in spirit that they are completely healed and healthy, and completely whole. Someone who may have had great difficulty walking or even standing on this side at the end of their life will tell me that over there they are dancing.

The true beauty of the Light is that it is total harmony. Here, we can spend a lifetime in the dark. We don’t know what we are doing or the effect we are having. But when we get over there, we get a clear view of what this side is all about.

What do we look like when we die?
We no longer have any physical appearance. We’re pure energy. When I’m doing a reading, the dead do have ways of showing me some appearance that allows me to describe them to their loved one on this side, but to be honest, I don’t know how they do that.

What is there to do on the Other Side?
There are so many dimensions, we have the choice of any kind of beauty we wish to experience. Whatever we loved is there — how could it be paradise otherwise? If we liked baseball on this side, we might choose to spend most of our time in a big beautiful baseball park, watching or playing our favorite game. If we liked to fish we can choose to be on a gorgeous, sparkling lake. If we liked the mountains, we could go skiing for as long as we want. If we liked music, we might be in a wonderful music hall. These dimensions are all created by God.

I was doing a reading for this woman once and I said, “Your husband is there with so-and-so and they are playing checkers.” She said, “No, they always played backgammon together.” OK, I’m not perfect — I always say this — but the point is that the game they enjoyed on this side, they still were playing on that side. I’ve had spirits tell me they are still enjoying their weekly card games, whatever!

Do dead people watch us shower? Does Grandma know I like to do that in bed?
Sure they can! And Grandma certainly does … They see us in the bathroom and they see us in the bedroom! But who cares? They’re dead! Who’re they gonna tell anything?

Don’t freak out. The thing you need to remember is that they are not in the flesh — they remember the flesh, but it’s not of any concern to them any more. They’re not judging. It’s not like they’re going, “Whoa! Has she got a big butt!” or “If I was him, I’da shaved that!” or “Holy Moly! Did ya ever see such a big …” Well, you get the point. The dead are not “Peeping Toms” — they don’t get any special thrill out of “watching,” it’s not entertainment to them — that’s thinking in human terms. They just look at it like human nature, like we might see two animals going at it and just look at it as animal nature. Maybe we might smile, or even laugh. But it’s not judgment. We don’t expect a couple of dogs or squirrels to be embarrassed that we see them doing what they’re doing. Yes, the dead certainly do see us in the shower or making love, but it’s just like we might witness an ordinary act of human kindness. We don’t judge it. We just smile and think, “how beautiful.” They are just happy that you are experiencing love or maybe just one-night-stand pleasure. They are happy for you. The dead are not nearly as stuffy about sex — not even our dead Sicilian fathers!

And before you even ask the question — yes, they also see all our secret, sneaky behavior —they see us raiding the refrigerator and scarfing up the ice cream and the leftover lasagna when we’re supposed to be on a diet; they see us picking our nose when we can’t find a kleenex. Again, in their eyes, it’s just ordinary human behavior. No judgment. They also see us in the operating room and in the classroom, and at our holiday table. They enjoy with us all the events we celebrate in our life and they also walk us through our sorrows and heartaches.

Is it possible to ask the dead for a moment of privacy? Can we have a “Would you please avert your eyes, Grams?” moment with the Other Side?
I hate to break it to you, but, no. Even if you said, “Don’t look,” that wouldn’t stop them. What about God? You never think about God looking, right? It’s the same thing. Does God ever stop looking? No. When your grandparents are over there, they are one with God. You can’t just turn that off or hide from it.

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Creepy...
What is your opinion on this? I didn't completely agree with it, but I'd like to hear any comments.  0:)

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Moloch on July 27, 2008, 04:36:13 AM

Eh, I don't believe in an after-life myself, so it has little effect on me. However, I do agree that having zombies watch you screw or masturbate would be creepy to some people. I wouldn't care, an audience is an audience, as long as they don't participate.

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Kadesh on July 27, 2008, 07:05:32 AM

 It kind-of explains why I'd get a sudden cold chill in the shower... or why the curtain would move with the door shut and locked. And I never felt as if my privacy were being invaded, but I did get a strong sense of being 'observed.' Like a painting hanging on a museum wall. Just like she said.. no judgement.

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Moloch on July 27, 2008, 07:45:50 AM

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Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Kadesh on July 27, 2008, 07:54:29 AM

 Because you're a sick bastard.

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Sick_Angel13 on July 27, 2008, 09:32:44 AM

Well that I'm pretty sure he already knows, being that the praise of the day.

Note - Oh there's a little mistake, this topic was supposed to be on a board under something like "Afterlife" or "Ghosts", silly me.

When the house is empty, silent and I take the opportunity to read I see things in the corner of my eye or I sense something behind me, and I actually picture it looking over my shoulder to see what I'm doing, lol. 

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Moloch on July 27, 2008, 10:43:03 AM

Next time I'm asking Grams to take a picture. I'm sure it'll last her a lot longer than I will, lol!

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Kadesh on July 27, 2008, 01:28:24 PM

 I think not being alone all the time is what keeps my fragile grip on my insanity...

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Sick_Angel13 on July 27, 2008, 02:39:43 PM

I'm just simply find myself paranoid once or twice.  :gun:

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Petling on August 05, 2008, 04:36:18 PM

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Why do I suddenly get the mental image of my dead grandmother watching Rose and I screw?

If they're watching us, & can see all the s**t I've been through, then why the hell haven't all my dead relatives been haunting that bastard that was "my first"? Or any of the other messed up jerk wads in my life? :? :|

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Kadesh on August 05, 2008, 06:42:57 PM

 Because they're dead and they ultimately don't care.

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Petling on August 05, 2008, 06:50:55 PM

Meh, I guess you're right. Still pisses me off. :|

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Kadesh on August 05, 2008, 06:51:55 PM

 Look to yourself, dear. You have more strength than you might realize....

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Petling on August 05, 2008, 06:55:50 PM

I know I do, it's just a matter of digging down through all those layers of scars to find it. :-(

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Kadesh on August 05, 2008, 06:57:36 PM

 But the scars are what makes you tougher. Scar tissue is thicker... thicker skin from all the torment..  If you need an ear, feel free to PM me, Pet.

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Petling on August 05, 2008, 07:01:20 PM

Thanks. Same here, Kadesh. :-D

Now, before we get back on topic. KISSES FOR ALL!!!

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Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Kadesh on August 05, 2008, 07:23:37 PM

 I honestly think that they could be watching us... but not as if they're actually interested, but just like we'd watch the country side out the window while driving. I know they're out there..... and I know that one is waiting for me....

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: Orlok the undead on July 25, 2010, 05:24:52 AM

Hmmm... not sure if i believe... but it's messed up if dead people is watching while we have those "private" moments.  *<:)

Title: Re: Creepy article: Do dead people watch us?
Post by: AEUBERTI on July 25, 2010, 07:05:18 AM

This could all be tru.  Then agsin youmight all be the result of my disembodied brain being poked by some mad scientist too *<:)